Infidelity | Adultery | Cheating | Partner Issues

For years, numerous statistics published in Germany’s highest-circulation newspapers and magazines have consistently shown that infidelity, adultery, and cheating affect both genders equally, often revealing surprisingly high percentages of men and women engaging in extramarital affairs. Naturally, such statistics should be interpreted with caution, as most individuals do not publicly flaunt their infidelity and many would prefer to conceal it even in anonymous surveys. Nonetheless, these studies often show remarkably similar patterns. In a 2013 study, both men and women admitted to having cheated or previously having cheated, with women slightly more often than men (38.9 percent versus 37.1 percent), which roughly aligns with the experience of the detectives at Kurtz Detective Agency Bochum during surveillance operations of both genders.

Dr Ragnar Beer, psychologist at the Georg-August University of Göttingen, explained in an interview with the fitness magazine Fit for Fun that this slightly higher percentage among women is due to fewer social consequences today than in previous years; divorce no longer carries the same social stigma, and increased participation of women in the workforce allows them to be financially independent, removing what once was a major deterrent to extramarital affairs – and to their detection. The emancipation of women in terms of sexual self-determination also coincides with the financial and social freedom to commission our private detectives in Bochum to investigate unfaithful male partners.

Private Detectives Uncover Infidelity and Affairs

If initial suspicions arise and trust in a partner’s fidelity becomes uncertain, it is possible to engage the detectives at Kurtz Private Detective Agency Bochum to either confirm the suspicion or, through observation, verify that the partner can indeed be trusted. It is crucial, however, to have a legally justified interest when commissioning such investigations, as German law places a very high value on privacy. In long-term relationships, cohabitation, or in the case of shared children, this legitimate interest allows surveillance to take precedence over the privacy of the person being observed.

Conversely, in relatively new relationships of, for example, one year, where partners live in separate households, our private and corporate detectives cannot intervene, as the preservation of the potentially unfaithful partner’s privacy takes priority. According to Dr Beer’s study on infidelity, only one in four men and one in three women admitted their affairs to their partner, meaning 44 percent of men and 46 percent of women must discover their partner’s infidelity themselves. In investigations into extramarital affairs and adultery, our Bochum detectives are available throughout the Ruhr area and across Germany, helping provide clarity and certainty to the suspicious partner: +49 234 3075 0073.

Detectives Trace Lovers from Friends and Colleagues

Dr Beer’s study further found that most affairs do not result from casual encounters in bars, restaurants, clubs, or cafés, but rather involve people from the existing social circle (31 percent of cheating women, 24 percent of men), colleagues (26 percent / 24 percent) or even mutual friends (20 percent / 15 percent). The detectives at Kurtz Private Detective Agency in Bochum regularly experience that betrayed partners often personally know their partner’s lovers, intensifying the sense of double betrayal. Through careful observation and photographic documentation during work, leisure, or business trips, our detectives are able to prove infidelity, adultery, and affairs, giving the betrayed partner – although painful – vital certainty.

With increasing digital connectivity, it has also become easier to detect infidelity, affairs, flirts, and cheating independently via social networks, messaging platforms, dating portals, or even so-called spy apps installed on smartphones that transmit communications and GPS data to the suspicious partner. Accordingly, many men and women are aware of their partner’s extramarital activities; in a Statista survey, 62 percent of 1,134 men reported knowing of an affair of their partner, with 14 percent aware of more than three incidents.

Attentive — and Suspicious — Partners Often Uncover Affairs Themselves

Interestingly, Dr Beer’s team also found that more than half of the men (51 per cent) and women (58 per cent) who had previously suspected their partner of infidelity ultimately discovered the affair or the infidelity themselves — whether independently or with the help of a detective. These figures are therefore significantly higher compared with the 44 per cent and 46 per cent noted above of those who discovered the affairs without prior suspicion, when an initial suspicion already existed. Consequently, fewer than one in five unfaithful partners admitted the affair after their partner had had a first premonition. Understandably, betrayed partners are less willing to trust the cheating partner again when they discovered the infidelity themselves than when the “perpetrators” confessed their affairs voluntarily.

If the possibilities of actually determining and proving an affair are limited or have already been exhausted, the private and corporate detectives of Kurtz Investigations Bochum are always flexibly deployable to dispel any doubt about the current and true state of the relationship — and the partner’s fidelity: kontakt@kurtz-detektei-bochum.de.